How To Get Rid Of Working Mom Guilt

When my husband and I were first married, we were both on the fast track with our careers. When I got pregnant, it never occurred to me not to go back to work. I took my six weeks of maternity leave, found a day care facility and went back to work. It was hard dropping Chelsea off at daycare for 8 or 10 hours a day. I felt torn between the need to contribute to our family’s finances and being a good mom. It turns out I was feeling mommy guilt.

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Many mothers feel that by choosing to work, they are doing so at the expense of their child. That is how I felt! It was as if I left my good parenting mojo at the daycare when I dropped off Chelsea. It didn’t help that most of my friends were stay-at-home moms. They often asked how I could bear to work while I let someone else “raise” my daughter. Why did my choice to work need to be the “bad” choice? Has that ever happened to you? Are you wondering how to get rid of working-mom guilt? In my opinion, the Working Moms Mean Business campaign from BBVA Compass has the answer!

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I now have three children and I can tell you there are two sides to this story! When I was working, I worried I wasn’t able to be the great mom I wanted to be. Now that I am a stay-at-home mom, I have the same worries. And I realized, this mommy guilt is also impairing my ability to be the best mom I can. So I had to find how to get rid of working mommy guilt. The eBook, Mom Guilt, BBVA Compass has partnered with Emma Johnson. Emma is a personal finance writer and blogger on her website, Wealthy Single Mommy. This book has lifted a weight off my shoulders! It offers a tangible way to let go of that mommy guilt.

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This book was so helpful! It is an easy to read, straight forward look into the lives of working moms. You get to meet real moms, just like you and me, who are in many stages of their career and parenting. They share how they have been able to get rid of that emotional black hole of mom guilt. In addition, BBVA Compass has partnered on a 10 podcast series with Emma Johnson. Like the eBook, the podcast series is centered around  successful women at various stages in their careers.

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The podcast I listened to was “Working Mom’s Impact On Our Kids.” It was so good! I learned that kids of moms who work, are more likely to complete a higher education and earn a higher salary! Other podcasts in the series include women in the workforce, what it’s like to be a primary breadwinner in a marriage relationship, women in tech careers, and more. If know someone you know has mommy guilt, share this information from BBVA Compass with them. They will thank you!

Do you, or someone you know searching how to get rid of mom guilt? I would love to hear in the comments below!

How to Get Rid of Working Mom Guilt: Get help from the Working Moms Mean Business podcast series brought to you by BBVA Compass and personal finance writer Emma Johnson.

About Kelly

Kelly is a wife, mom of 5 (2 are furry), camera bug, tech lover, gadget grabber, travel enthusiast, music aficionado and TV junkie. Her goal is to share with you recipes, DIY ideas and crafts that are fun, easy to make and won’t break the bank.


  1. robin rue says:

    I definitely feel guilty sometimes, but now that both of my kids are in school full time, I try to get as much done while they are away as possible.

  2. This is such a great post. More and more moms work these days. I think it’s great, actually. But there was a time when I was afraid that I was neglecting my kids.

  3. I LOVE this post! I’ve been on both sides of this, too. I was surprised to find out that working mom guilt is actually just mom guilt. We always find something to feel guilty about!

  4. That ugly guilt feeling hounded me when I decided to go back to work. Although I had my mom to watch over the kids (they were all of school age when I started working again), I still had that anxiety that the kids would grow up not knowing me, or that their love would be channeled to their grandmother instead. Good thing my mom helped me put things into perspective and she always reminded my kids that me going back to work was necessary so they could all go to school and have a college education. I am sharing this post with my younger cousins who are still struggling with deciding whether to go back to work or be a stay at home mom.

  5. It should be nice to hear from working moms on this issue! I can imagine that the women featured in the book have some very helpful advice!

  6. Anything to help with this. I am a part of many working mom groups, and I see how guilty they feel about doing what they need to do for the family

  7. This is such a great post about moms who work, while most of the moms I know work remotely either running their own business or for a company on salary pay, even then I can see them struggle. I struggle with the guilt of having to do work during daytime hours when school break is in session so I can only imagine what moms who leave the home have to struggle with! What a great post to hep with those feelings!

  8. I was a working mom when my kids were young and I definitely felt guilty sometimes. Mom’s should feel free to do what they need to support their family.

  9. Thanks for sharing info about the podcast! I love that you are spreading awareness about working mom benefits. We need to change the dialogue. Moms contribute so much to society, while also raising healthy, productive children.

  10. I worked before my kids were born and for about 15 years after. It was necessary and I never felt a bit of guilt about it.It was work or have no roof over their head.

  11. It seems as if no matter where we are, at home or at work we will feel the same guilt that moms usually feel. It definitely hinders us from being the best version of ourselves for the kids. I think it’s great that there’s a book that moms can rely on.

  12. Michelle Waller says:

    I work from home, and I am thankful that I have this opportunity. Even though I work from home, it is like I work out of the home with how much I am on the computer. Like a previous comment, I do not feel guilty over it because it is the difference of my kids eating Ramen Noodles for dinner or a delicious and hearty chicken dinner with veggies. Its a sacrifice moms have to make.

  13. I gave up my career and stayed home for 8 years. The time was irreplaceable and I loved it more than I can say, BUT It got me out of the loop and now the word on the block is I’m over-educated while not staying relevant in my field. I’m working outside of my field now, and still shaking my head that it is so hard to make that re-entry. It’s always a give and take when you make big decisions.

  14. I can so relate to this, oh-so very easily! It’s hard to be a career woman and a mama all at once – what’s the best for my family? We’re still trying to figure it out, slowly but surely.

  15. This is such a great post. I felt this whenI was working in an office.This book would be helpful for working moms for sure!

  16. My kids were always in daycare from the time they were almost two and were very happy to leave and come home. It is nice to hear that these kids could be overachievers after all.

  17. I can’t say that I’ve ever had this guilt. However, I can definitely see how easy it could be to have it.

  18. I was a single mom that worked two jobs the majority of my daughter’s formative years. I struggled with working mom guilt for a time, but I told myself that I was doing it to provide for her. That really eased the guilt. Plus, I knew that I had to so that we could survive.

  19. Any time I leave my sick kids with someone else, I feel the guilt to the depths of my soul. It’s so hard to balance it all, but worse when you beat yourself up over it.

  20. I suffer from this big time! I love this post so much and will have to remember this advice!

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